I am adopted. It is something that I talk about a lot. It is apart of who I am. Adoption is something that has been in my life forever and I continue to embrace it. Exactly 31 years ago today my life was changed; a path was created.
Here is my story:
I was born on January 17th and a few weeks later I was handed to my mom and dad. Exactly 31 years ago today, February 4th 1983. I was just weeks old and little did I know that this amazingly strong couple would be my Perfect Parents. From the time I was able to understand anything I have known that I was adopted. It wasn't taboo, it wasn't a big deal, in fact I told people about being adopted all the time. My parents were open and honest with me always. They told me what they could about my birth parents and answered any questions that I had.
I think that many people who long for children and decide to join the adoption route feel scared and unsure about what the process will be like. Now, obviously a lot has changed since my parents have been through it but from what they have told me, they too felt this. They felt judged, looked at, and most of all; not the perfect parent. Here is the truth. It's not about perfection, it's about love. You do not have to be perfect to be a perfect parent. I certainly feel like I have the Perfect Parents and I am more than thankful for the life that they gave me.
Being adopted I often get questions about bonding. Like I said before, I never knew anything other than being adopted. That open and honest relationship made for a bond with my parents that I strive daily to have with my children as they grow.
When I was five years old my parents adopted my little brother. I remember that day and so many memories of my baby brother rocking my world of being an only child. Adoption was just apart of our lives. Jarrin, my brother, was also adopted at just weeks old. The pictures below so the fun we had right away, but the funniest memory I have of him is when I was angry at my parents for paying attention to him. I might look sweet but I would go into his room and pinch his legs and make him cry and run out quickly!! My mom caught on fast!
While my brother and I are not the closest right now I do feel that we have a very special bond and connection. We are siblings maybe not by blood but we are a family. This bond was important growing up. I felt like even though we were adopted our family unit was exactly how it needed to me. We supported one another and made sure we were open and honest growing up. My brother was just like me, he only knew he was adopted. Honesty builds a bond that is stronger than any blood.
Looking at these pictures all I see is happiness and love. My family was perfect in my eyes, we all made mistakes and that is okay. It's not about perfection; it's about love. My parents had so much love for us both. Our lives would have been so different had we not been adopted. The families we were born into were not ready to love us; thankfully we found a home that was full of love.
Adoption comes in so many forms. Have you ever considered opening your home to a child or children in need of love and forever family? AdoptUSKids can help you with your decision and questions. So many people think that they are not going to qualify or be a good parent or that there are any children out there to adopt! WRONG! Check out this number - in the US there are nearly 102,000 children waiting for that forever home. Waiting for someone to look past perfection and focus on the real meaning of a family.
Today I am thankful and honored to say "I am Adopted!" 31 years ago TODAY my life began. 31 years ago today my parents became parents for the first time. 31 years ago I met my forever family. I am who I am today because of what happened 31 years ago today.
If you have ever had a desire to become an adoptive parent or a foster parent now is the time to get your information and start the process. Visit AdoptUSKids and you can read some amazing stories and see some great kiddos who are waiting for you to take a chance with them.
Maybe you will get a chance to have some fun bonding moments like these:
Disclosure: This post is paid for by the Ad Council. This is my honest opinion and true story of adoption.